Believing in Marriage...Sorta

The article above is about a married couple who met while they were married and decided to leave their spouses for each other.  They wanted to be happy and felt that they would be happier together.  They said they had to do the "honorable" thing by leaving their spouses (and kids) for each other.

I am not suprised by this.  I have seen it happen before, and there are those that defend this sort of thing.  The problem is that it misses the point.  This couple had a choice of where to put the work of love and where to focus their affection.  They chose to focus it on each other rather than on their spouses.  It may have been the easier way, but that doesn't make it the better or right way.

We all have feelings and instincts that must be focused rather than indulged.  I am busy working on focusing my feelings for food off of soda and junk and onto water, juice, and fruits & veggies.  It is harder to refocus feelings and desires than to just give into them, but it is healthier to refocus much of the time.

This couple may think that they believe in love and marriage, but they blew up two marriages and destroyed a lot of love in the name of the same.  While the kids have a chance to move beyond this, they will be forever affected by what their parents did.  There will be some damage that while it may heal some, will never go away.  But at least these two are happy...for now.